Fayaaz Abrahams Sauls

On the 11th June 2008 Fayaaz Abrahams Sauls was born. 8 months later he was introduced to myself and my family. Fayaaz started spending weekends at our place and weekends turned into weeks and now 5 years later he is still staying with us permanently. 

Fayaaz age 2

It was hard for me to adapt and accept Fayaaz because i was afraid that i would be replaced by this stranger but eventually i had to come to the realisation that Fayaaz was not going anywhere not anytime soon at least.  Fayaaz and i became partners in crime to the point where i made it my sole mission to make sure Fayaaz was walking at 11 months and potty trained at 1 and half years. My love for Fayaaz grew stronger each day. He became my little brother(even though i wanted a sister, guess i just had to do with what got) that if anyone would do harm to him would have to answer to me. Fayaaz was like a little old man, he went to my Matric Valedictory and partied at Camps bay he even stayed out all night with us, one would say he experienced things beyond his years some would say that its cruel and that his a child and needs be a child but my thought having Fayaaz with me on most occasions probably saved my life. When i say saved my life i mean it, if he wasn't with me for my Matric valedictory i would've done things that one could only dream of (you know what Matric valedictories are like). Fayaaz in our life has changed me for the better and some would say that if it wasn't for him coming into our life i would never have become involved as a volunteer with New Kidz On the block www.newkidz.org.za i urge everyone to get involved with them. 

Fayaaz helping me bake

Many people would ask my family why would they take a little boy in?? some even assumed that my brother Zaid was his real dad but no we took him into our homes because he had this eyes that made you feel as if he was staring into your soul as if he was longing for our family to be his. we made this conscious decision in taking him as a family and not a day goes by that I regret ever letting him into my heart. he will always be my little brother even one day when his old enough to know that we are not really his family and that i am only but a stranger whose family took him into their hearts and home and made him their own. 

Fayaaz having swimming lessons

So when his birthday was nearing this year and we were all excited about someone turning 5 a milestone in every child's life we were uncertain if he would be with us for his birthday as every year since his being living with us his mother has always had him on his birthday making it hard for us to ever really plan a birthday party. However this year was different he was with us for his birthday and we could finally give him the party we planned for. 

his birthday invitation

I love how technology has evolved because now we can send invitations via email, facebook or even mms. it took some time to get use to the fact that Fayaaz was actually going to spend a birthday with us for the first time. Excitement was growing in the Abrahams household and Fayaaz's  birthday party was nearing, excitement was in the air nerves as this was the first children's party in the Abrahams house in 16 years, we were over our heads at times as too what will be the theme which because we believe children should have their own opinions in everything regarding them, we naturally asked him what he would like to have it started with Ben 10, and then it was Spider man and eventually we came to the conclusion that he would have a superhero party.

Party guests and birthday boy

After 2 weeks of planning and contemplating whether there will be a jumping castle or not, if it were to rain or shine. we eventually cancelled the jumping castle which to my admise the kids never even cared they had fun playing soccer with Fayaaz( who happens to play soccer  u7 soccer and who is a Liverpool supporter and watches documentries of Messi because he wants to one day play soccer with the great Lionel Messi).

Fayaaz in his Liverpool outfit

So i went of topic a bit sorry guess im just a proud big sister. Back to his birthday party they played soccer and dodgeball and had fun being kids, sometimes we forget that all these fancy things like playstations and jumping castles actually take away the children's will to think and make up their own games, we tend to take it for granted that these things are just there for entertainment. Im not going to say Fayaaz had a perfect party because what party for a child is but in my opinion i think he had a pretty good one. It might not have been a destination party (which i strongly advice if you want to avoid the hassel of baking,cooking and cleaning up afterwards) but it was perfect for him. 

Black Widow and Arrow Man with the birthday boy

Chloe the Super dog and myself Black Widow

the silver under my eyes was suppose to be a mask

I end of by saying thank you to Fayaaz mom for making the wise desicison to want a better life for Fayaaz and to let him be with us and thank you to everyone who shared his special day with him, and also if ever you having a children's birthday party rather have a destination party so that you too can enjoy the day your child becomes a year older instead of been in the kitchen baking and cooking and cleaning.

Till next time...